ikigai is a japanese concept that means “a reason for being.” and of course there is a book about it. of course there are many books about ikigai. how to live a balanced life. how to live a life with zen. in harmony. in peace. and jadajada. oh so many great ideas. and. we. all. end. up. stressed. because. we. can’t. find. our. fucking. i k i g a i .
of course we can also search for ‘hygge’ or ‘lagom’. danish and swedish answer to the longing above. i don’t know. somehow ikigai just sounds closer to the real deal of zen.
i have always liked the concept ‘lagom’. also before it was a book lol. i have to say that.
having said all this. the book – ikigai – was actually very inspiring. i will have to admit and say out loud. that i like these books. i don’t eat them raw. after all i studied social theory, theory of science, critical thinking, structural, poststructural methodology and so on and so forth at the university of Lund for 5 long years. (ok 7 but who is counting. and there where two babies added to the stress-mix there.) so. well. what i am trying to say, is that i like these coach/therapy/pop-psychology books. and we have a. lot. of. them. maybe i should mention, that i am married to a psychologist here. we have both heavy and light books. in this post we are in the light end. these books are great for energy. for inspiration. for lifting you up for a second. for telling you, that no, you don’t HAVE to do this or that. you don’t HAVE to act like everybody else all the time. you don’t HAVE to work 9-17 from you are 26 til 67 and then retire to survive in this world. there. are. other. options. wauw. it is actually possible to think outside the box. question the box. question the “it has always been like that” or should i say. ikigai? touché. let me shortly list the main life-rules practiced by the people of okinawa in japan. one of the blue zones in the world where the oldest people in the world live. the home of ikigai.
here is how they live.
- they never retire.
- they are optimistic and friendly
- they take it easy. no rush. the ones who walk slowly walk safely.
- they only eat till they are 80 % full. they eat a lot of greens, beens and tofu. and green tea. of course.
- they are very social. friends. neighbours. family. they are all close.
- they exercise. not like powerlifting or marathon-running. move. everyday. slow. outside. also when you are 107.
- they smile. a friendly attitude gets you far. appreciate that you are here. now.
- they are grateful. and also respect the older generation and do not treat them as just old. outdated. they are wise and active.
- they are in contact with nature. (100 % of the people researched in the book had a little kitchen garden).
- they live by the moment. day by day. not in the past. not in the future.
- they live by there ikigai. their meaning of life.
…but what if i haven’t found my ikigai? i don’t know what my passion is? i have to work 9-17 to survive. it is easy to say but not an option for me. well. if you say so. but i bet it is possible to rethink your box. and of course there is a book about that. lol. i specially love this one!
as i said. we. have. a. lot. of. these. books. a. whole. lot. so another day i will pound you in the head with other things. always. remember your critical thinking! 😉 xoxo
a little moment of me + zen today. a tiny moment of ikigai is better than no ikigai. right.